To hurt people’s feelings or to resort to cowardice in order to get people to like you, that is the question. A small exaggeration, but you get the point.
The liberal viewpoint tends to put a huge priority on being politically correct. The “Alt-right” is essentially the conservative backlash against this train of thought.
First, being politically correct means you cannot say anything that is offensive to anyone. You must always be aware of everyone else’s feelings and viewpoints and never say anything that is divisive. You must strive to get along with everyone and never say anything that could be hurtful.
My problem is this- You’re not being authentic. You have to be true to what you believe. If you never hold your ground on something that you believe in you’re not being considerate, you’re a coward. Speaking truth in love can still be extremely offensive to people.
Second is the “Alt-right”, the complete opposite of politically correct. The viewpoint that we should be able to say whatever we want regardless of the consequences. They believe that because we have free speech we don’t have to consider other people.
My problem is this- you’re just being a jerk. You might be “true to what you believe” but you can’t stomp on everyone in the name of “freedom”. You have to care about people and still do your best to live at peace with them. You can’t let every stupid thought leave your mouth.
I had a conversation with one of my co-workers this weekend and he told me something that he lives by. “Say what needs to be said.” This-this is the middle ground that we should all be looking for. Say what is necessary, even when it hurts. However, saying whatever comes to mind is unnecessary and causes more harm than good.
There is a time for brutal truth, and there is a time to be considerate of a person’s feelings.
The problem, is we have to learn what situation we are in with every circumstance.
So how do you know? How do you know whether to bring offensive truth or to keep your mouth shut?
Time and practice.
We never stop learning.