I have one bumper sticker on my car. It just says the word “GOOD” with a picture of a man who is known for saying it-Jocko Willink. Jocko tells the story of how his subordinates in the Seal teams would come to him with a problem, some major issue, and he would always look at them and just say, “Good”. He would always say that no matter the situation or what is going on, there is going to be some good that comes from it.
“Didn’t get promoted?”-“Good, more time to get better.”
“Mission got canceled?-“Good, we can focus on our other one.”
“Got beat?”-“Good, you learned.”
“Unexpected problems?-“Good, we have the opportunity to figure out a solution.”
I love this. Whatever happens, you control how you respond to it. Figure out the problem, find the good in the midst of the bad, because your circumstance does not determine the end result.
I had a friend who used to always say, “Perception is reality” meaning that how someone perceives something is what’s real to them. He would always say it in regard to how other people perceive you, but it applies to yourself. How you perceive the situation becomes the reality in your eyes. If you perceive that everyone is against you and nothing ever goes your way? Guess what. You’re going to find more and more that everyone is against you and nothing ever goes your way. Why? Because that’s what you’re looking for. “Seek and you shall find…” Whatever you are searching for you will discover.
The point is; control the controllable. Keep the right perspective. There’s no point in complaining. Look for the good, find the good, and if you can’t see it then bring some good into the situation.