There’s a song I like to listen to called “Let’s hurt tonight” by OneRepublic. (Still one of my favorite bands. Judge me.)
It talks about a couple who comes home “worn to the bones” after a long day and the argument that ensues between them. The crescendo of the chorus goes, “Don’t walk away, don’t roll your eyes, they say love is pain, well darling, let’s hurt tonight.”
While I obviously don’t believe that “love is pain”, the premise of the song is powerful. We’re mad at each other, it hurts to talk to one another, but it doesn’t matter-we’re going to work this out. Regardless of how much this situation might suck right now- I still choose you. I choose to work this out until it’s fixed. If this pain and heartache is what it takes to get this fixed, then I’m going to embrace it because you matter more than the pain.
Hannah and I are only three years into our lives together. They’ve been a great three years. Ups and downs for sure, but great overall. This is still only the beginning, and our first little one is on the way, due in June. So I know that there will come many nights when I come home “worn to the bones” just like she will be after a day of mothering… And in those moments when we’re both tired and frustrated- we’re going to work it out. We’ll both have valid frustrations, and we’ll both try and possibly fail at being understanding, and when that happens, we will choose to stay with one another and work it out.
I don’t know the fullness of what the future holds, but it’s going to be great going through it all with my wife at my side. She’s exactly the one who I want to share this life with.
Happy three years babe. I love seeing our growth and look forward to so many more years of being with you. Growing, learning, and loving each other more and more each day.