1. Honor the people in authority over you. Submitting to authority is a big problem for most people because of our pride. We want to do things our way, and when someone tells us what to do we resent it.
Have some humility.
Understand that there is a process to getting to the top and you may not be there yet. If you are doing your job well you will make those above you look good. Speak highly of those in leadership even if you don’t agree with their methods. When you discuss the leadership with other people, focus on their strengths and ignore their weaknesses. Do everything you can to build them up and don’t tear them down.
2. Respect the people next to you. Encourage each other on a regular basis. Even when it doesn’t benefit you, help them. When they don’t completely finish a job, finish it for them. Don’t make a show of it and try to make yourself look better, just finish it. When they make a mistake, have their back. When someone else gets promoted ahead of you, be happy for them.
3. Lift up the people below you. Be a hand reaching out offering help to the ones below you. Teach, train, and point out mistakes without belittling the person. When someone messes up, show them where they went wrong and how to fix it, don’t just be mad because the mistake was made. Be the leader that you want those above you to be.
Three rules summed up simply-
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
If you are running a 100 yard dash with people that are slower than you, you will win every time. It will only make you feel good about yourself because you are winning the race of slow men and women. If you are running a 100 yard dash with people that are much faster, you might consistently lose, but your time will be better. You’ll push yourself to get to the same speed as they are.
If you only have people around you that make you look good, that make you feel like you’re better than they are, you will not improve. You will be happy with the status quo. You will feel like you’re successful because you’re doing better than they are.
Get around people that force you to get better. Make it a point to be the dumbest person in the room on occasion, It will push you into improvement. Because when you look around and see people accomplishing more than you are, you will look at them and say, “If they can do it, so can I.”
Content vs. discontent. Satisfied or dissatisfied.
We should never be content or satisfied with where we are in life. Always learning, looking to improve yourself and your quality of life. Growing into better character, better intelligence, better work ethic… Never stop moving, pushing yourself harder and harder until you see change take place, and then after the change takes place start reaching for the next level. You’re never done, never resting, always seeking.
We should be content and happy with where we are. Recognizing how good we have it, satisfied with how good our lives are. Understand that even in the midst of difficulty, you are in a place that is far more blessed than millions of others. Take joy and be at peace with your life, look around you, take a deep breath, and be thankful for all that you have.
It’s not either/or.
Have balance between the two, you will need both.
I love and I hate resolutions.
I love making a firm decision to improve in some way, that should be something we are doing often. We always need to improve, grow, and learn. Resolve to be more generous, get in shape, to work harder, all of these things need to be done. We are in constant need of refinement.
I hate resolutions when they are made just because a new calendar has to be put up. There is nothing truly significant about the new year that will make you change your life for the better. It’s as if for a few fleeting weeks we realize that we’re getting older and we should probably try to live with some intentionality.
Living life on purpose and working toward what you want to accomplish should have nothing to do with a calendar. That should just be how we live.
To think of yourself as a leader typically has a bit of a delusional quality to it. To think that you will live your life in such a way that will have any kind of significant impact on the world is unrealistic for the majority of people.
If you look at the world in a realistic perspective, you will be average. For almost everyone reading this, that statement is true. You will have a small area of influence, a small sphere that you might be able to make a small difference in. You most likely won’t change the world, you probably won’t do anything of significance, you won’t make a dent in the universe….
Even with this reality staring me in the face….
I can’t help but think to myself…
Where’s the fun in that? Live your life as if you will be written about in the history books. Live as if you’ll leave a legacy for millions to follow. If you expect ordinary, you will achieve it every time. If you expect extraordinary, you might not hit it, but your actions will do a much better job of trying to hit it.
I would rather aim for history and fall short instead of aiming for average and hitting the target.
Be a little delusional that you will make an impact worth remembering. Let your expectations go into the phenomenal, and make your actions follow.
People might think you’re a little out there … When people insult you shrug them off. When people call you crazy take it as a compliment. Keep climbing, striving, and not being satisfied with the status quo. Look for greatness in the midst of mediocrity.
Aim higher than everyone else. If you fall short, get up and aim even higher.
This is something most people don’t want to talk about. It’s a lot more convenient to think that we are only responsible for our own actions and everyone else is responsible for theirs.
However, to a certain extent, we are meant to be our brothers keeper.
We are partially responsible for what those around us do.
We are meant to care for the person next to us as much as ourselves. To look after one another, to look for the best in people, and to encourage taking the right path.
Your actions directly influence the actions of those around you. If you are positive and joyful, the people around you will be more positive and joyful. If you are depressed and sad all the time, the people around you will start feeling the same way.
If you hold a moral high ground, those around you will lift their morals to match yours. If you have no morals or self control, those around you will follow suit.
“People inspire you, or they drain you-choose them wisely.”-Hans Hansen
Your actions have a domino effect, both to you for affecting your future actions, (An object in motion tends to stay in motion) and to those around you because of your influence.
Realize that what you do has a much bigger ripple affect than you think. Take some time and try to view the world as if you were behind your friends eyes instead of your own.
What you do has a much bigger influence than you realize.
To hurt people’s feelings or to resort to cowardice in order to get people to like you, that is the question. A small exaggeration, but you get the point.
The liberal viewpoint tends to put a huge priority on being politically correct. The “Alt-right” is essentially the conservative backlash against this train of thought.
First, being politically correct means you cannot say anything that is offensive to anyone. You must always be aware of everyone else’s feelings and viewpoints and never say anything that is divisive. You must strive to get along with everyone and never say anything that could be hurtful.
My problem is this- You’re not being authentic. You have to be true to what you believe. If you never hold your ground on something that you believe in you’re not being considerate, you’re a coward. Speaking truth in love can still be extremely offensive to people.
Second is the “Alt-right”, the complete opposite of politically correct. The viewpoint that we should be able to say whatever we want regardless of the consequences. They believe that because we have free speech we don’t have to consider other people.
My problem is this- you’re just being a jerk. You might be “true to what you believe” but you can’t stomp on everyone in the name of “freedom”. You have to care about people and still do your best to live at peace with them. You can’t let every stupid thought leave your mouth.
I had a conversation with one of my co-workers this weekend and he told me something that he lives by. “Say what needs to be said.” This-this is the middle ground that we should all be looking for. Say what is necessary, even when it hurts. However, saying whatever comes to mind is unnecessary and causes more harm than good.
There is a time for brutal truth, and there is a time to be considerate of a person’s feelings.
The problem, is we have to learn what situation we are in with every circumstance.
So how do you know? How do you know whether to bring offensive truth or to keep your mouth shut?
Time and practice.
We never stop learning.